Shift 008 – Dealing with the “I Should” Pressure

How often do you feel the weight of what you should be doing? The pressure to take action, say yes, or push forward…even when your body is quietly saying no?

Today, we are going to talk about this unruly pressure and what we can do to remove it.

The Story That Sparked This Shift

Recently, I was talking with one of my Rising Entrepreneur Members, and she was caught in that familiar loop of “I should“.

Someone had mentioned that a potential client might be looking for services just like hers. Naturally, her brain went into overdrive. She started brainstorming ways to start the conversation and position herself (which so many of us do…and I’m no exception). But as the ideas flowed, she started feeling that ick in her body.

Something was just off, and she knew it and suddenly overwhelm kicked in.

She told me, “This just doesn’t feel like me.” But at the same time, her mind was shouting, “You should do it anyway.”

The Battle Between Head and Body

This is where pressure takes over. Our minds start spinning like:

• “You should to take this opportunity.”
• “If you don’t act now, who knows when the next opportunity will come around.”
• “This is what all the successful people are doing, so you should too.”

Any sound familiar??

When your body feels resistance, tightness, discomfort, anxiety, that’s your mind whispering “this isn’t the way”. Your intuition lives in your body, not your head. And when we ignore it to follow the “shoulds”, we end up draining our energy, forcing results, and feeling misaligned.

The Shift: Get Out of Your Head and Back Into Your Body

I encouraged her to pause. To stop strategizing and simply listen to her body. If this opportunity was truly meant for her, it would unfold with ease. It would feel like alignment, not pressure.

And that’s what I want you try anytime you begin to feel the “should” pressure. Pause, and ask yourself:

• “What is my body telling me right now?”
• “Does this feel expansive or constricting?”

Your body will always know the truth.

Trust the Process

When you honor what your body is saying, you create space for the right opportunities to find you. You open the door for alignment instead of chasing validation. This doesn’t mean you’ll never take bold action, it just means the action will come from truth, not fear or pressure.

Because when you act from alignment, things move faster, feel lighter, and unfold naturally.

Try this, and see what shifts for you.